Online scams exist in all corners of the internet and adult websites are no exception to this. While adult websites provide an abundance of positive experiences, both escorts and clients can be prone to the art of deception. In this post I will be focusing specifically on scams that target clients.
Deposit Scam
The deposit scam is pretty simple. A provider (possibly even a dude who isn’t even in the same country) puts up a fake advertisement, asking for a deposit to secure a booking. The client pays the deposit and bam! She’s never to be heard of again. Sometimes the escort will play along a bit further, but will constantly make excuses as to why she can’t show. Just like most scams, once the money is in their hands, it’s almost impossible to get it back.
This is an infuriating scam for clients, but also honest sex workers because it makes it harder for clients to trust sending one. Deposits are generally required by sex workers to show commitments to a booking. In case of a no show, it covers the cost of a hotel (not all girls work from their home) and taxi/Uber, as well as the time required to get ready for the client and travel. As somebody who has done all of the above without taking a deposit and not have the client show up, it’s pretty shitty. On the other hand, I can understand the hesitancy of a lot of clients to hand over money to some random person over the internet.
There are a few ways to help avoid this. A lot of clients will check the providers social media pages. They’re generally a good indicator as to whether the person actually exists and how long they’ve been in the industry for. Most scammers will eventually be reported, so their ads won’t stay up for too long. In Australia (not sure about overseas), there is an escort review forum called Punter Planet. While I would be careful using it for general reviews (it’s incredibly biased, ‘boys locker room’ type talk), it can be good for flagging scammers. Just remember that if an escort asks for a deposit, this does not always signify a scam. Deposits are a necessary part of securing a booking for honest sex workers, so just make sure to do you due diligence.
Bait and Switch
Another one of the most common scams is the good ol’ bait and switch. It’s basically where a worker uses misrepresentative photos on her ad to lure in clients. Sometimes the photos can be of a totally different person and other times the photo can be of the person, but taken 10 years ago or highly photoshopped. The idea is that by the time the real girl visits the client, he’s already invested time and money into the booking and may as well go through with it.
My first piece of advice is to remember that if the price seems too good to be true- it probably is. In Australia, you would expect to pay at least $500 for a quality experience. Of course, there’s always exceptions but it’s a good general guide. If a highly attractive escort is less than $400 per hour, I would start having doubts.
Some websites will verify an escort’s photos. Using a trustworthy platform and choosing verified profiles will help eliminate a lot of fakes. This is not always foolproof, so as with the deposit scam, it won’t hurt to do a bit of research. Social media is also a great way to suss her out, if she has one. A lot of legit girls will post candid shots, which are a great way to see a more realistic version of her.
'Cash and Dash'
The ‘Cash and Dash’ is where the escort arrives at your place and accepts the money for her services. She then asks you to take a shower or claims she left something in the car, at which point she will make a run for it. One client of mine told me that that an escort not only ran away with his money, but she somehow managed to empty the entire mini bar into her bag as well! Champagne, chocolate, coke- the lot. He didn’t actually find out until he received a shocking $700 bill upon checkout!
There can be a few reasons why an escort would run away like this. Firstly, she may not even be a scam. It’s possible that she just doesn’t feel comfortable being there for whatever reason, but is too scared to say anything and dashes when she gets the chance. I’m not going to lie- I have been there before (I did leave the money behind though and said something about an emergency). Just be conscious of her body language. If she’s clearly not comfortable, then give her an opportunity to leave before any money has been exchanged. You might lose your deposit but it’s still better than her taking the full amount.
It is still more than likely that she had this planned. As with all the other scams, try to consider girls who have been around longer and built up some reputation. Try not to act on impulsivity. Take your time to do a bit of research on her using social media and review forums before going ahead with a booking. I know this can be hard when you’re ragingly horny at 2am in the morning, in which case it’s probably safer to go to a brothel.
Remember, while scams do exist in the adult industry, it shouldn’t prevent you from using these services. Scams exist all over the internet, yet it doesn’t stop us from using it for many wonderful things. You just need to educate yourself on what to look out for. There are plenty of lovely escorts out there, so don’t let scepticism stop you from having a good time.
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14 thoughts on “Escorting Scams- A Guide For Clients”
Thank you for this information. I have been the victim of the deposit scam more than once. Have also been victimized by blackmail as somehow the provider got hold of personal info. How, I have no idea.
The difference is if any other kind of business scams us there are legal avenues to get out money back. Also. These businesses are all overseen by laws that protect the consumer. If an escort burns you in the deposit then oh well and many times they do just that..Best buy doesn’t burn you if you put money down on an item for layaway.. Let’s face it, this is how these girls make money.. some enjoy it and some would rather keep your 50 bucks then perform.. Giving a deposit to an escort is a risk. A high risk and if time is money then these girls wouldn’t be blowing off 500 dates cause a guy won’t prepay site unseen. Who gives up 500 over a 50 deposit? Someone who probably won’t show
Is this information recently updated about the prices? Ppl are struggling and there’s Ukrainian refugees flooding SW, so is it possible prices are lower for the sake of trying to rope me in as a client? (Like she gives me this good deal, but next time tells me that was a first time customer deal)
I’m probably convinced it’s a scam but am fighting myself on whether to take the leap and take the hit… I want this girl, she posted a picture in our text with a note to me with the date scribbled on it… But she has been ‘negotiating’ for hours upon hours… They have no website and I have to deposit with her ‘manager’ with PayPal or something… I’ve never done this before, I’m 44, and good looking but broke af, I want to hide that fact.. should I take a blind leap and eat the loss if that’s what it is? Idk what to do because I literally stepped over the threshold of this world a few days ago.. and if she did turn out to be real, and we could stand each other’s company for more than 5 mins, maybe I become a client… Any advice would be a step farther than I’ve gotten, & I had to juggle chatting with 6 or 7 of them, even pissing them off and showing screenshots of each other using the same tactics…. Then one I didn’t really talk to started talking and admitted she is an escort, which was refreshing, so I went back and apologized to them, or some of them, and I’m starting to learn, but it feels like the only way I’m going to learn is by getting my feet wet, and eating an L if I got to…
When it comes to deposits, I will ask for the donation amount, followed by asking is there a deposit required. A lot of times scammers won’t mention a required deposit until you’re about go see them, high on anticipation. If there is a required deposit from my inquiry, let’s say $40 for a $150 hhr incall, I will offer to donate $250 if they waive the deposit. Most of the time, they insist on the deposit despite the increased and in some cases doubling of donations…making me feel pretty confident this is a scam. Providers with good business sense who do require deposits, have taken me on my offer and we both benefitted.
I’m glad you’ve found ways to avoid being scammed. However, I do think that even reputable escorts will insist on a deposit even if the booking fee would be more if waived. I personally wouldn’t feel comfortable going ahead without a deposit. I have to book a hotel for an incall (which would put me out of pocket if client is a no show/time waster) plus the time and effort to prepare for a booking. I respect your choice to avoid paying deposits, but not all escorts who insist on them are scamming ☺️
In some cases, it is the other way round. The guy who book, need to pay the hotel room and wait for the girl. Usually good agent will arrange on all this.
A couple of nights ago I was looking on a escort website called listcrawler . I eventually spotted a lady I thought was very attractive. Jet black hair and gorgeous blue eyes. I text her number and ask how many roses for a two hour incall. I use the word roses instead of money. She responded and stated her fee but then she said something that was a first time for me. She was requiring that I pay a 70 dollar deposit and said it was for her safety. Something about it spooked me. I’ve been using escort services for 10 years now and never have been scammed but I also know there’s always the possibility of a first time. I stop responding but it wasn’t because I was intentionally wasting her time I was just afraid of being ripped off. 70 bucks isn’t that much , but the possibility of discovering she was scam and no show as attractive as she was would’ve broke my heart into. I really ENJOY financially spoiling ladies as long as their legit with me. Is it possible she thought I was a cop ?
Generally if your gut instinct says something isn’t right, then it’s important to listen to it. Asking for a deposit doesn’t always signify a scam, many reputable escorts will require one. But if the offer seems a bit too good for the price then it sounds like it could be bait. Better to be sure even if it’s a missed opportunity than to risk it!
People need to understand reputable escorts are not soft little women. 99% of the time they are hardened individuals whos been thru some shit and they know the risk they take of being in the sex business. Eacorts are not your normal hookers. 100% of the street hookers are doing it to pay for there dope problem when most escorts its a career choice that pays the bills and keeps em afloat or pays for there way thru school. Real escorts may ask for half up front but not till you’re together and they probably would have told you this beforehand aswell and as far as giftcards are concerned theres an old saying “cash is king” and its king for a reason. They always say “i need it for security problems”…how the hell is someone sending you 30 dollars on cashapp going to prevent them from harming you?!?!? It makes no sense. If you do send em money thru an app theyll want u to take a screenshot and send it to em and the name you send it too 99% of the time has some dudes name as recipient and most likely thats the dude your sending money and dick pics to….gross. The only reason someone would ask for gift cards is to scam u. Females dont want limits to what they can purchase. You cant give your landord an ebay card or pay your water bill with a stream card. Real escorts want cash just like anyone else. Bottom line is if you feel like you’re gonna be scammed by either money or there looks have them take a selfie holding up 4 fingers or a selfie holding a piece of paper with your name it or something personal, like favorite team name. If they dont understand or say so no in anyway they are scammers. True industry girls know the game and they don’t want u scammed since they need your money. In the end just dont be stupid and think to yourself how you could get scammed and if they can scam you….THEN YOU’RE BEING SCAMMED. Oh and one more thing, if u decline there services cuz u thought it was a scam they will threaten u the next day with either extortion or the tough guy tactic…either choose to fuck with them like i do or just block them on ur phone…its a just a lonley nigerian trying to scam you AGAIN. They will not hurt you or your family no matter what they say.
Don’t forget about the Ebay Gift Card scam. So, there are a sequence of numbers at the bottom of the card and if you pair those with the last 3 numbers on the scratch-off number then you can easily get the code and drain the card. They’ll ask you to take several pictures in certain ways to prove they’re real until they have enough to type it in and drain the card. Ebay themselves have said it’s easy enough to do. Don’t send pictures of the back of the card for any reason.
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Ok, so first time using an escort.
She wants an upfront deposit of $500 for an entire night. From 6 to the next morning.
I’m good with the price but etranfering that money seems sketchy AF to me.
She’s going through a site called Lady’s.one
Ive read up on that company and it says that some are complete scammers and some are not.
She keep promising and swearing to me that she isn’t a scam.
But when she messages me, she sounds like she has an accent. Then she sent me a video of her pleasuring herself and no accent when she was talking on the video.
Just little things like that make my gut go, nope, she’s a scam.
I googles searched her photo and it came up in a bunch of different escort services.
She keeps saying that this is her life. This is her work and that she doesn’t not scam and that I will not regret being with her. I’m sure scammers would say the same thing.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated
Hey, $500 for an overnight is a pretty reasonable deposit so it’s not necessary a scam. If you’re concerned, I would suggest booking her for a shorter amount of time like an hour before committing $500 to her ☺️ even if she isn’t a scammer she may not be the type of person in real life you’d want to commit a full night and a lot of money to, so an hour may be a lot of money saved.