Despite the array of online apps, dating in the digital age is harder than ever. You only have a few seconds to capture your potential match’s interest. Over the years, I have successfully helped several of my clients get back into the dating world. Here are my tips for more swipes!
Choose the Right Photos
That old saying ‘a picture speaks a thousand words’ is more relevant than ever when it comes to dating apps. Your profile pictures are the first impression people have of you and you only have a few seconds to make the right one. I don’t know why, but men are particularly notorious at taking ‘not so attractive’ photos of themselves (sorry, but it’s true). I would recommend getting a trusted friend with a good eye to help choose photos from a selection you have. If there aren’t many good photos, maybe hire a photographer.
People shy away from using a photographer because they don’t want a professional, airbrushed look (which I agree is not good for a dating profile). The right photographer will be able to capture you in a candid way, but with a good eye for the right angles, lighting and compositions. A good photographer should also be able to post process photos in a way that’s natural and still representative of the real you. I have taken photos of many of my clients over the years which have succeeded on the dating apps (which is bad for my escort business but I couldn’t be more happy for them).
Don’t do the chest photos (see below to see what I mean). They’re basically a selfie of just the chest, often with no face, taken in the bathroom. Even if you workout and have a nice upper body, it makes you appear a bit narcissistic or try hard. If you do want to show you’re fit, get a photo taken of you at the beach or a pool. It looks a lot more natural and the lighting will be better too.
Highlight Your Personality
Your dating profile should be a reflection of your personality. Use your profile to showcase your unique qualities, such as your sense of humour, adventurous spirit, or passions. Share your hobbies and interests, and be specific about what you enjoy doing. Again, photos are a great way to showcase your personality. If you’ve been travelling or have hobbies, absolutely make sure to include any photos of those, it’ll show you’re a much more interesting person.
Photos I use to show my personality and interests
Be Honest
Honesty is key in online dating. This is also a problem in my industry, and lying to ‘stretching the truth’, might be a good short term tactic, but really isn’t sustainable. Be truthful about your age, weight and other important details. Avoid using outdated photos or misrepresenting yourself in any way. You’ll just be wasting both your and their time. Honesty will build trust and increase your chances of finding a genuine connection.
Keep It Positive
Negativity is a bit of a turnoff. I would avoid using your profile to vent about past relationships, complain about your life, or express negative opinions. People are just going to swipe the fuck left! Also, if you have specific turn-off’s, don’t list them. I see these types of posts all over reddit, and while they are hilariously cringey, but don’t be that person! Instead, focus on the positive aspects of your life and what you’re looking for in a partner.
No Fish Photos
We all know the photo- man on a fishing boat holding out a dead fish. If you have a photo like this on your dating profile, maybe take it down (unless it’s used as a joke). I guess once upon a time in our hunter gatherer times, a fish might have been a genuinely appealing offer to show you can provide for your lady? But maybe replace the dead fish photo with a cute puppy (steal a friends dog for a few hours if you don’t have one), just trust me on this!
